Fiction of Relationships

Relationship : a human imagination

Relationships are means through which human beings socialize, but on a deeper level they are divine gateways through which we realize more of ourselves. There has been a belief, and not without reason, in Sufi mysticism that love helps us bring out certain characteristics which have been lying dormant deep within ourselves, without which we are not a complete whole. This desire to be whole is prevalent in every living being right from the seemingly dead plant to the most irrational animal, whether they admit it or not. Some seek this union with nature, others realize it through their own kind. But there always has been rather a hidden desire in us to be united with others and with nature.

But relationships are complex entities as well. The very fact that the initiation of our relationships actually requires us to orient our thoughts about the particular person involved in a certain way, testifies to the fact that relationships are but personal and imaginative creations. They are our own ways of attributing people in our lives with special thoughts and features, that may be completely antithetical to what others think about that same person. Post Structuralism as a school of philosophy says that any written work is not unique as regards to the experience the reader might get out of it. " Death of the Author" is a work in this field towards this subject. And in the very same way, the attributes we attach to a particular relationship will never be understood by others, since our understanding is deeply colored by our own subconscious which in turn is a reflection of our own history and our past and present relationships.

When two people meet, therefore, it is not just a superficial mixing. In fact their relationship serves as a magical palette, wherein a beautiful motley of colors, characteristics, histories, thoughts, behaviors etc. breed with each other and give rise to fresh vistas to completely reorient the involved parties' lives. Some of them may not mix well, which is the reason why conflicts arise. But everybody in a relationship has something or the other to receive, because, we have willingly let that person in our lives to mix their personal colors with ours, which is going to leave an indelible mark on our souls.